a comment from Paul
Comment from Paul. Since we got back, Lois's illness has progressed rapidly, and she is now preparing herself and her family for her last days. She has been very brave during this time, and has helped all of those around her to cope with her situation, providing comfort for them by ensuring she is OK with what is happening. Both Lois and I have no regrets about taking on the trip that we did. We knew the risks when we planned this, and had to curtail it early, but it has been fantastic, and we will remember this time for the good things that have happened despite Lois's problems.
Doctor Hamilton (Lois's Oncologist) commented early on when we discussed our trip with him that there are two sorts of reaction people have when told they have a terminal illness. Those that shut the garden gate, go indoors and are never seen again. And those that open the garden gate, run down the lane and make the most of what time they have left. Lois decided to do the latter, and it has been a fantastic, wonderful trip and it has been a privelage for me to fortunate enough to meet, marry and accompany Lois along this journey.
As her Kiwi Oncologist, the lovely Maria Pearse at Auckland City Hospital said "Lois is an inspiration to everyone and a truly wonderfull person" It has been tough at times...having to carry Lois in and out of her wheelchair when she first lost use of her legs, but to see the joy on her face each time we carried her into a hotpool, or took her far a walk inthe podocarp forests made it all worth while. I would encourage anyone who is faced with a challenge such as we have had, to do exactly what lois has done, accept it as a fact of life and make the msot of your time.
Throughout the last 9 months, Lois has kept her sense of humour, zest for life, inspired and enhused others around her.
I am the luckiest man in the world to have been chosen by Lois to be her soul mate, partner, husband and best friend